Self-Inquiry with Vala Kondo-Legan, August 6, 2025

The Wednesday group is also working on a single quote for August from The Book of Life (Love is dangerous, November 25):

“Love is the most dangerous and uncertain element in life;

and because we do not want to be uncertain,

because we do not want to be in danger, we live in the mind.

A man who loves is dangerous.”

The group started by acknowledging the many forms of “love” and played with definitions; including “openness” and “acceptance.”

A distinction was made between thought based love and a deeper dimension of love.

Thought based love was discussed as operating as a “tool” to avoid loneliness.

and fill a “void” that was characterized as “uncertainty”/ “the unknown”.

Love was observed to “add to the ego” .

Associations were made to Jesus’s embodiment of love and threat/ danger to system.

The group looked at thought’s belief that it “knows love” and society’s commoditization of love.

Thought’s deep question, “Am I lovable?” was discussed and linked to sorrow, which may spring from our vast separation from love.

A swing occurred in the group from sorrow to the subject of joy, And it was contemplated whether the swing was a manifestation of love avoiding sorrow, as had been previously discussed. The group ended with associations between “danger” and the pain that seems linked to love.

 

—Vala Kondo-Legan