Inquiry with Javier Gomez Rodriguez, October 29, 2026

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We met in the Pavilion to explore the question of conflict. The discussion began by considering why people sometimes seek conflict rather than avoid it. Conflict can provide excitement, stimulation, a sense of purpose or even belonging. Yet, although we may not want conflict in our lives, it seems to be an almost universal part of human relationships.

The conversation turned to the origins of aggression, bullying and violence. Participants shared personal experiences of being bullied and considered how fear, humiliation and feelings of inferiority can be passed from one person to another. We explored how painful experiences remain in the psyche and can be triggered unexpectedly, sometimes producing reactions that seem disproportionate to the immediate situation. Understanding the causes of violence, however, does not necessarily bring it to an end.

We also examined the relationship between competition, cooperation and power. From childhood, we are conditioned to compare ourselves with others, establish hierarchies and measure our worth through achievement, status and recognition. Javier brought the discussion back to Krishnamurti’s fundamental observation: “Where there is division, there must be conflict.” This led to an inquiry into how division operates not only between individuals and groups but also within ourselves.

The discussion then explored the psychological movement towards becoming something: creating an image of ourselves and constantly trying to maintain or improve it. The desire for power, control, possession and significance may arise from an inability to face what we actually are. Even the conflict between what we are and what we think we should be becomes another form of division.

Towards the end, participants considered how we might respond when conflict arises in everyday relationships. Rather than blaming the other person or immediately looking for explanations, could we first pay attention to what is happening within ourselves?

 

  • Anastasia Shtamina